Detaching With Love
It is time to know how to let go. You humans don’t learn the importance of trusting your knowing of when to let go. This is a tragedy, you see. It is not a tragedy to say goodbye when it is time. It is a tragedy to grasp, to cling, to hold on out of habit or out of conditioning to do so, out of guilt or fear of judgment. This is the true tragedy. When you are noticing resentment, anger, shame about the way you have been showing up with the other and you’ve done much work to change these patterning within, yet you still struggle to show love in a way that is rooted and grounded in true genuine love without obligation…then this is a sign that it may be time to detach with love.
Detaching with love is one of the greatest lessons you can learn as a human. It is a sacred process that is to be learned by doing. you love yourself deeply enough to trust your internal guidance that this is what you need to do for you and for the other. You both get to experience the freedom from the patterning that no longer serves you, that has been deeply patterned in the way you show up with each other. Can this be changed? Yes. These patterns always have the potential for change. Do you want to do the work to change it? That is the true question to ask yourself.
Do you have the capacity to do the deep diving work to change this? The genuine, open hearted capacity? If there is aquestion in your mind about this, you re coming from a place of obligation. You owe it to yourself to only show up wiht people from an authentic place of highest love to do this sacred work. you owe it to the other to do this as well. If you are functioning from obligation, this creates resentment, anger and more disconnect. This will not serve you or the other in any way. It will, in fact, chip away at the integrity of your connection. You have felt this. There is no judgment fo rthe fact that you have felt this in real time through the years. You are paying attention now.
This is what happens when you stay in a situation past it’s time. Your connection is meant to be a connection for a s long as you can genuinely stay in your heart. If you can’t stay in your heart from a place of genuine loving compassion, then it’s time to redefine what it is you are doing. That is all it is. It’s a redefinition of what your connection will look like moving forward. There is no tragedy here. Just genuine loving connection that is shifting into a new set of terms that are most authentic and conducive to the way you want to show up, from your high heart consciousness. Learning to let go of something that isn’t working is a sacred journey. Please see it as a sacred journey and nothing else. If anyone tries to tell you otherwise, don’t believe them.
Any shame based thoughts, words or deeds that come out of this are simply a biproduct of social conditioning. This is not an energy that will serve you in any way. Does this mean that you ignore the true emotions that come up when letting go in this way? Absolutely not. Feel what you need to feel. This is important. Feel what you need to feel. It is necessary and it is sacred for you an the other person to feel them separately and together when appropriate. This is not a tragedy, you see. The only tragedy would be to continue in a connection that no longer feels authentic to you and your needs and therefore the other person’s needs as well.
Your needs are connected to the other person’s and you pretending to show up in a way that is not true to your heart will only do damage to the other. And to you, of course. Trust that this journey you are on is sacred, it it exactly where you are meant to be to live out your highest expression of soul int his this lifetime…
Right now it might feel like shadow but fear not, this too shall pass and it is not a tragedy. It is not a tragedy unless you create it in your mind to be. You choose. You choose. You can never lose when you are coming from a genuine place within your heart to make decisions from the hearts, from the presence that you are. This dropped in knowingness, the quiet, calm voice within that is guiding your steps. this is the place from which you make this decision. Does this feel true for you? Always ask: Is this true for me?
We honor and value your free will. You know the direction for your life when it stems from this quiet place in your heart, not from fear. Release fear, dear. Release fear aroudn this. Communicate from your heard and it willb e received as truth. Communicate from fear and you will create more fear and pain and disconnect and challenge. No no, do not perpetute the cycle of fear. Now is the time to be dropped into the heart and to communicate from this place. Feel your feelings and communicate from your middle space of neutrality. The place in which the witness resides deeply within you.
How beautiful, indeed! This is an opportunity for healing, growth, and a fresh start. For both of you. Allow it to be as freshe start and connect in with your heart. From there you will always know what it is you need to know in order to take the path that leads you to grow. We love you, we support you, we know that you trust yourself more than ever before and this will allow you to open the door and to walk through it this time. All is well, all will be well. Live fully so that you may fully live. That is what you are here for. There is much beauty in store for both of you. Trust.